Cancer 101 for Kids

The kids came with John and I to meet my breast surgeon. We had made plans alternative plans for them to stay with their Dad but they felt strongly about going with us. In fact, Jack got very upset and said he wanted to meet the doctor and ask questions. I would certainly rather educate and engage my kids in this process than let their minds wander and be frightened because they don't know what's going on. 

So that's what we did. 

They waited until my exam and planning meeting was over and then my doctor met with them. She took off her lab coat and sat at their level in the lobby - very casual. I was impressed that both kids actually took the opportunity to ask questions. They were not shy and were very at ease.

Jack's first question was, "What exactly is breast cancer?" The doctor gave a age-appropriate explanation of "cells" and then explained that some cells in our body grow differently and they can hurt us. She told him that "Mommy had some of those bad cells and that because she was so smart to take care of her health, she is going to get rid of those bad cells." He followed up with, "Will Mommy get new pillows?" (Yes, my kids call my boobs "pillows," because when we snuggle up to read or watch tv, they always get into my arms and rest their head on my chest.) She explained that "Yes. Mommy will have new "pillows" and once she is feeling good and healed, you can cuddle with her just like you do now." Jack was satisfied with those answers and promptly picked up his itouch to finish his game of MineCraft. 

Then McKenna asked "Why do both pillows have to be chopped off if only one is bad?" (Yes, she said "chopped off. Lovely!) The doctor explained that it was like wearing a seatbelt...that Mommy is making smart choices for her health and safety.  McKenna then responded, "I can tell you are going to take care of her and she's still gonna be my smokin' hot mamma!" What a little firecracker she is! I hugged her so hard and my insides exploded with joy.

The doctor was wonderful with them.

They were happy and relaxed.

John and were so thankful; we really want to make them feel like everything is okay without negating the fact that Mommy is sick. 

No secrets. 

Mission accomplished.

I'm very proud of them!!

In fact, I'm proud of us all!

And I will forever be reminded of this journey and will continue to WALK BY FAITH!